Attachment-Focused Therapy in California & Virginia

Map patterns, strengthen boundaries, and practice repair—ACT-led care for anxious, avoidant, or mixed styles.

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At a Glance — Attachment-Focused Therapy

I help adults shift attachment patterns so relationships feel safer and more connected. We build emotional tolerance, practice repair language, and align choices with your values.

Quick Facts

  • Modality: 100% online (HIPAA-secure)

  • Approach: ACT-led with CBT/CPT; mindful grounding; no forced exposure

  • Who I help: Adults with anxious/avoidant/mixed patterns, shame/criticism cycles, intimacy/communication struggles

  • Availability: CA & VA (statewide)

  • Fees: $300 / 50 minutes • Self-pay • Superbills available

  • Licensure: CA PSY36022 • VA 0810007130

  • Start: Free 15-minute consultation

How I Treat Adult Attachment Patterns (ACT-Led, Relational)

We map your pattern (anxious, avoidant, mixed) and practice secure behaviors that translate to daily life and relationships.

  • ACT — Respond, Don’t React:

    Build flexibility to notice urges (cling/bolt/blank) and choose values-consistent responses (ask directly, set limits, repair).

  • CBT — Updating Relationship Beliefs:

    Challenge rules like “needing others is weak” or “people always leave,” and test new behaviors with small, safe trials.

  • CPT — Healing Old Narratives:

    Process trauma-linked meanings that shape intimacy and boundaries.

  • Exposure-Informed Practice:

    Graduated approach to feared conversations (asking for needs, sharing impact, saying no) with scripting and rehearsal.

  • Mindfulness & Emotion Regulation:

    Grounding, paced breathing, and interoception to ride waves and repair after ruptures.

    Involved sessions may be used for live skills practice.
Couple walking hand in hand, symbolizing adult attachment challenges and healing through therapy.

What Adult Attachment Challenges Can Look Like

Attachment patterns are learned survival strategies—not personality flaws. Signs that your attachment system is pulling hard:

  • Anxious patterns: worry about abandonment, frequent reassurance-seeking, difficulty relaxing between texts

  • Avoidant patterns: downplaying needs, “I’m fine” stance, discomfort relying on others

  • Mixed/disorganized patterns: wanting closeness and pushing it away; conflict feels unsafe yet distance hurts

  • After-argument hangovers, difficulty repairing, or fear of being “too much/not enough”

  • Trouble noticing your needs, naming boundaries, or asking for help

Therapy helps you map your pattern, build nervous-system tools, and practice secure behaviors—so connection can feel safer and steadier.

What to Expect in Therapy

We’ll map patterns, practice secure behaviors, and build repair skills so relationships feel safer and more connected—statewide online in CA & VA.

  • Pattern map: We identify pursue/withdraw cycles, protest behaviors, and shutdown triggers tied to history and current relationships.

  • Skills you can use today: ACT-led choice points, CBT for unhelpful rules (“If I’m needy, I’ll be left”), and repair language for hard moments.

  • Body & regulation: Brief mindful grounding to widen your window of tolerance before/after tough conversations.

  • Healthy boundaries: Scripts for saying yes/no, clarifying needs, and pacing intimacy without guilt.

  • Practice reps: We role-play difficult dialogues so you’re ready for real life.

Telehealth is provided with documented informed consent at your first appointment. We review risks, benefits, privacy, and alternatives per California and Virginia law.

Who I Work With

I support adults who want relationships to feel safer and more satisfying—and who are ready to map patterns, build boundaries, and practice repair skills in California and Virginia (online only).

  • Anxious, avoidant, or mixed attachment patterns (pursue/withdraw cycles)

  • High-achieving professionals who struggle with closeness, trust, or vulnerability

  • Individuals healing after betrayal, divorce, or repeated breakups

  • Adult children of emotionally immature or critical parents

  • Dating with discernment (secure-style habits, value-aligned choices)

  • Shame/criticism loops that derail communication and intimacy

  • Adults 18+, statewide online care; self-pay with superbills available

Fees & Policies

My rate is $300 per 50-minute session. Insurance is not billed directly, but superbills are available for out-of-network benefits. Late cancellations (<24 hrs) are billed at 50%, and no-shows are billed at the full rate.

Uninsured or self-pay? You have the right to receive a Good Faith Estimate of expected charges.

Where I Provide Care (California & Virginia)

I’m licensed in California (PSY36022) and Virginia (0810007130). Fully online care allows me to support adults anywhere in both states.

Ready to Begin?

Schedule your free 15‑minute consultation to see whether we’re a good fit and to talk about next steps for trauma recovery.

Schedule Consultation

  • Adults navigating anxious, avoidant, or disorganized patterns, including difficulty trusting, fear of closeness, or conflict/withdrawal cycles.

  • I lead with ACT (respond vs. react), integrate CBT (updating rules like “people always leave”), CPT-informed repair of trauma meanings, and exposure-informed practice for hard conversations.

  • Yes. Individual therapy can target skills, boundaries, and repair language you can bring into any relationship.

  • Yes—HIPAA-compliant telehealth statewide in CA & VA.

  • $300 per 50-minute session, self-pay; superbills available for potential OON benefits.

  • I primarily focus on individual therapy. If couples therapy is a better fit, I can discuss referrals.

Frequently Asked Questions

Have more questions? Visit my frequently asked questions about online trauma therapy page.