Attachment Therapy for Avoidant and Anxious Patterns

I help adults who struggle with avoidant or anxious attachment patterns that show up as emotional shutdown, distancing, conflict, or fear of closeness. Many of the people I work with want meaningful connection but feel overwhelmed when emotions rise or when relationships feel too close.

In therapy, we focus on building closeness without shutdown, improving communication, strengthening boundaries, and restoring trust in relationships. My approach is ACT led, trauma informed, and carefully paced so change feels sustainable rather than forced.

I offer online attachment therapy for adults in California and Virginia, with limited in person sessions in Folsom by appointment only.

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How ACT Helps Change Attachment Patterns

Attachment patterns are often maintained by protective stories and urges that show up automatically in relationships. ACT helps you notice these patterns without letting them dictate your behavior.

  • Defusion from protective stories

    Learning to observe thoughts like "I need to pull away" or "this is too much" without acting on them automatically.

  • Values guided closeness

    Clarifying what kind of partner, communicator, or parent you want to be, even when discomfort is present.

  • Willingness and nervous system pacing

    Gradually increasing tolerance for emotional closeness so your body learns that connection can be safe.

  • Committed action in real relationships

    Practicing new responses in everyday interactions, not just talking about them in session.

Adult couple walking hand in hand, representing attachment challenges and healing through therapy.

What Attachment Therapy Looks Like

  • Initial consultation

    We discuss your relationship patterns, goals, and whether attachment-focused therapy is a good fit.

  • Early sessions

    We map avoidance or anxiety cycles and identify moments where shutdown or reactivity tends to appear.

  • Skills practice

    You learn ACT-based skills you can use during real relationship moments, not just in session.

  • Measuring progress

    Progress is assessed through functional changes such as staying present longer, communicating more clearly, and responding with choice rather than reflex.

Service Areas

I provide online attachment therapy for adults across California and Virginia. I also offer limited in person sessions in Folsom, serving the Sacramento region including Roseville, by appointment only.

See If Attachment Therapy Is a Fit

  • Attachment therapy focuses on understanding and changing relationship patterns that affect closeness, trust, and emotional safety.

  • Adults who notice avoidant or anxious patterns in relationships and want healthier connection without losing themselves.

  • Yes. I commonly work with adults who experience emotional shutdown, distancing, or fear of closeness.

  • Yes. I provide secure online therapy for adults in California and Virginia.

  • Limited in person sessions are available in Folsom by appointment.

  • The first step is scheduling a consultation to see if attachment-focused therapy is a good fit.

Frequently Asked Questions About Attachment Therapy

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