Attachment-Focused Therapy Online in California & Virginia


I offer attachment-focused therapy online across California and Virginia to address anxious, avoidant, and disorganized patterns that affect closeness, boundaries, and trust. Using ACT plus CBT, CPT, and mindfulness, I help you respond to emotions more flexibly and build relationships aligned with your values—confidentially and securely.

How I Treat Adult Attachment Patterns (ACT-Led, Relational)

We map your pattern (anxious, avoidant, mixed) and practice secure behaviors that translate to daily life and relationships.

  • ACT — Respond, Don’t React:

    Build flexibility to notice urges (cling/bolt/blank) and choose values-consistent responses (ask directly, set limits, repair).

  • CBT — Updating Relationship Beliefs:

    Challenge rules like “needing others is weak” or “people always leave,” and test new behaviors with small, safe trials.

  • CPT — Healing Old Narratives:

    Process trauma-linked meanings that shape intimacy and boundaries.

  • Exposure-Informed Practice:

    Graduated approach to feared conversations (asking for needs, sharing impact, saying no) with scripting and rehearsal.

  • Mindfulness & Emotion Regulation:

    Grounding, paced breathing, and interoception to ride waves and repair after ruptures.

    Involved sessions may be used for live skills practice.
Couple walking hand in hand, symbolizing adult attachment challenges and healing through therapy.

What Adult Attachment Challenges Can Look Like

Attachment patterns are learned survival strategies—not personality flaws. Signs that your attachment system is pulling hard:

  • Anxious patterns: worry about abandonment, frequent reassurance-seeking, difficulty relaxing between texts

  • Avoidant patterns: downplaying needs, “I’m fine” stance, discomfort relying on others

  • Mixed/disorganized patterns: wanting closeness and pushing it away; conflict feels unsafe yet distance hurts

  • After-argument hangovers, difficulty repairing, or fear of being “too much/not enough”

  • Trouble noticing your needs, naming boundaries, or asking for help

Therapy helps you map your pattern, build nervous-system tools, and practice secure behaviors—so connection can feel safer and steadier.

What to Expect in Therapy

In our first session, we’ll map relationship patterns, clarify goals, and identify attachment triggers at your pace. You’ll leave with a practical, values-based plan. Sessions are held through HIPAA-compliant telehealth with a self-pay model (superbills available if you seek reimbursement). Most clients meet weekly or bi-weekly for 50 minutes, with options for short-term protocols (8–16 sessions) or ongoing support for deeper attachment repair.

Who I Work With

I provide trauma-informed care for adults experiencing:

  • Attachment wounds — including childhood emotional neglect or inconsistent caregiving

  • PTSD and Complex PTSD that overlap with attachment challenges

  • Veterans & Active-Duty Military navigating deployment, reintegration, or moral injury

  • Federal employees & security-clearance holders seeking confidential, insurance-free care

  • Immigrants & refugees coping with separation, displacement, and cultural adjustment

  • Marginalized communities (LGBTQ+, BIPOC, and others facing systemic trauma)

Fees & Policies

My rate is $300 per 50-minute session. Insurance is not billed directly, but superbills are available for out-of-network benefits. Late cancellations (<24 hrs) are billed at 50%, and no-shows are billed at the full rate.

Where I Provide Care (California & Virginia)

I’m licensed in California (PSY36022) and Virginia (0810007130). Fully online care allows me to support adults anywhere in both states.

Ready to Begin?

Schedule your free 15‑minute consultation to see whether we’re a good fit and to talk about next steps for trauma recovery.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • Adults navigating anxious, avoidant, or disorganized patterns, including difficulty trusting, fear of closeness, or conflict/withdrawal cycles.

  • I lead with ACT (respond vs. react), integrate CBT (updating rules like “people always leave”), CPT-informed repair of trauma meanings, and exposure-informed practice for hard conversations.

  • Yes. Individual therapy can target skills, boundaries, and repair language you can bring into any relationship.

  • Yes—HIPAA-compliant telehealth statewide in CA & VA.

  • $300 per 50-minute session, self-pay; superbills available for potential OON benefits.

  • I primarily focus on individual therapy. If couples therapy is a better fit, I can discuss referrals.

Have more questions? Visit my frequently asked questions about online trauma therapy page.